Sunday, August 12, 2012

Life Lesson: Arguing With Love

     So, the mister and I had a fight disagreement (never really know the appropriate term. Fight sounds too intense, but disagreement sounds too mild) this morning. It's tough to actually tell our "fighting style" being that  it's uncommon for us to actually fight. Not saying we are the perfect couple (because how boring is that?!) I think it comes down to us both having been in serious relationships before and have grown and matured from them. And, at the end of it all, our argument this morning was, perhaps a little exaggerated on my part. Mister stayed out a little later than he should have (maybe me accidentally taking his car keys made it tough to get home!), I made him feel guilty, he apologized. Yet,  I kept feeling like it was a forced apology and didn't want to hear it. All the sudden, though, it dawned on me: What we're arguing over doesn't  make you any less of a boyfriend or person.

     What if every argument we asked ourselves this: Does this make he/she any less of a person? Not just boyfriend/girlfriend, husband/wife relationships. I'm talking friends, family, bosses... anyone in your life.
     If  your significant other consistently leaves the toilet seat up, is it worth picking an argument that could potentially jeopardize you relationship? Your best friend that may be a little boy crazy: Does her always dating someone new really put a damper in your friendship? Sometimes, the answer is yes. And there's nothing wrong with that. Maybe just remember the reason you were first drawn to this person and ask yourself if at the end of the day you still want them and their influences in your life. Is this little issue going to matter in a week? Six months? If the answer is no, then your'e probably doing okay.

What's your best advice on dealing with arguments and disagreements? 

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